Wednesday, April 11, 2007

Woman Power




If I see one more magazine article telling women 100 new ways to please your man I might just barf. “Elicia, consider the source,” as I flip through the latest issue of Cosmo. The magazine is deigned for the everyday, average, heterosexual (thin, rich, white) woman. Of course the messages are going to feed into that world.
But – does it have to be SO MUCH? Does heterosexism, consumerism, male-centered sexuality need to be everywhere I look?! I turn on the television and see ads telling women we are getting old and better put ice packs on our face lest we lose our sex appeal. I flip through magazines and read articles teaching women how to spice up their sex life with their men. What?!?! Since when is it that women need any help in that department? Have we not been giving men orgasms 100% of the time??! Meanwhile women are still wondering if we are orgasmic. And we need the tips on pleasing men?!
And another thing. Males and females do not have different brains! Quit trying to brainwash everyone into thinking that women are emotional and men are logical. Do not encourage women to “be less emotional” and “use shorter sentences” if we want to get our man’s attention. This is not the stone age. Women and men have been effectively communicating as people for years. What keeps women and men from communicating more successfully is all the B.S. about us not being able to communicate because we are on different planets. It’s Earth, people. And it’s not that hard.
Women don’t need new tricks in the bedroom. We need to tell ourselves we are hot, sexy, smart and worthy on a daily basis. We don’t need ice in the bedroom – we need to tell our partners (not just males) how to please us. That being said, we need to know what pleases us! We need to spend less time worrying about how to please a man and many, many, many more hours of self-exploration learning what pleases us. We need to stop worrying that we cannot achieve a G-spot orgasm. We need to stop comparing ourselves to every other woman on this earth who appears to have it better than we do. Lindsey Lohan is probably not having orgasms either! And she seems to be doing just fine! We need to use our brains and not digest all the chocolate being forced down our throat with books about women with low libidos. We are horny too!
I long for the day when a woman will know what she wants. Is confident enough to ask for it. Smart enough to teach someone. Sexy enough to display her back fat, hairy legs, crows’ feet proudly. I am woman, dammit. Hear me rrrrroar!

7 comments:

Unknown said...

Right on sista! Forget about leg hair...what about the hair we have in all these other places and how we are bombarded with messages to "make them smooth and clean" as if my arm hair is dirty! Not to mention the $1000 most hair removal products/procedures are! Yes, I am a hairy yet very sexy woman!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

I feel exactly the same way... Send this article to Cosmo, or Vanity, to see what they feel about it.. They might be more women than men working there..
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Anonymous said...

Sister! I hear you! (that is eastern Canada for I understand!) How about 100 ways the man can please us! Wait a minute! We don't really need them for that...but we love them anyway.

Anonymous said...

I agree. Men a simple sons-o-bitches, why do you need 100 ways to please? Average food and slightly average sex is about all you need. Hell, as long as a girl's got no more or no less than 2 breasts, a guy is usually happier than a pig in shit. I've always wondered, and heard plenty of white women wonder aloud, just who the hell they're marketing to. Where I do disagree is that to tell anyone that the male and female brain are different is not brainwashing, it's solid fact. Avoid the propaganda research from both sides and you'll see it's been clearly demonstrated on numerous occasions. I'd like to think the real challange (and pleasure) in life is figuring out how to make the most of the differences and avoid the pettiness of it all.

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