(disclaimer: this is heterosexually focused. i realize domestic violence happens in same sex relationships and also happens where the female is abusing the male.)
girl meets boy. boy falls in love with girl. boy kicks the shit out of girl. girl gets blamed for staying in relationship. boy gets off the hook.
i didn't think i would have the chance to comment on this story since it happened 2 weeks ago. but today i heard that tomorrow's dr. phil show is on reasons women stay with their abusive boyfriends. come on. that old question still? a woman gets beat up and she is the one who is forced to uprot her life to go stay in a shelter while the abuser's life (often) remains intact. the woman is then further victimized with questions about her absurd decision to remain in the relationship.
why are the choices women (are often forced to) make subject to public discourse?
why aren't we raising questions about the mindset of the abusers? why aren't we watching dr. phil ask the abuser why he continues to beat his girlfriend? why isn't the abuser forced to uproot his life and move into some unfamiliar place with abusers like him?
why is this still an issue? a tired old story.
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